Escape the comparison trap in your relationships!
Let’s talk about real life versus reel on social media.
Many times what we see on social media is often a curated highlight reel – carefully selected moments and filtered snapshots of people’s lives. The perfect date night with the perfect partner. The perfect day at the beach.
It’s not reality, it’s more like a magic show, filled with smoke and mirrors.
Real Life vs. Highlight Reel
Sometimes it can feel like this in our relationships, especially if they’re new. You’re so worried about impressing the other person that you’re only showing them the highlight reel side of you.
Fear of judgment or rejection keeps you from showing up as the whole authentic version of yourself. This can happen in intimate relationships, friendships, and professional relationships like networking.
But here’s the catch about the highlight reel – what you see online is just a glimpse, not the whole picture. Behind the scenes, there’s a tapestry of real-life moments, struggles, and challenges.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison, thinking everyone else has it all figured out while we may feel like we’re stumbling through a maze.
Nobody’s life or relationship is as perfect as what they show on their highlight reel. Whatever you’re experiencing in your life right now is okay, even if it’s not to your preference of what you want.
Let’s not forget that life is beautifully imperfect, and it’s okay not to have it all together. Embrace your journey, celebrate your victories, and remember that social media is just one chapter, not the entire story.
The Comparison Trap Leads to Self-Judgment Spirals
In a world where it feels like everyone else’s grass is greener, it’s crucial to remember that our perspectives may be playing tricks on us.
Escape the comparison trap in your relationships! Social media’s curated highlights can distort reality.
Looking at pictures of the “perfect” relationships. Seeing groups of girlfriends going out together and longing to be in those groups. We all look at pictures of other people on social media and think to ourselves “I wish I had their life” or “I wish I was in a relationship like that.”
Comparing our lives to others can lead to unnecessary self-judgment and jealousy. Social media’s curated highlights can make this struggle even more real.
Many of us are playing a social media induced judgment and comparison game with others, thinking that other people have it better than we do. Wishing we had what they have.
This leads to a negative mindset and judgment spiral that just brings us further away from what we want to create!
We Have Evolved to be Focused on Negativity
Our brains are wired to magnify the negative, making that 20% seem like 60%. It’s a survival trait from our caveman ancestors who thrived by focusing on potential threats.
The cavemen that were more focused on the negative aspects were more likely to react strongly to negative stimuli and they lived long enough to pass down their genres. So we’re literally evolutionarily designed to be hyper focused on the negative.
Rewiring Your Brain to be Positive
The way to short circuit this is to focus on the positive. But we are often so stuck in the same feelings and beliefs it can be hard to switch our mindset!
Instead of longing for others’ seemingly perfect lives, shift your focus to gratitude.
A positive mindset makes you MAGNETIC! It attracts amazing people, love, and opportunities into your life.
How do you shift to thinking more positively? You can start by practicing gratitude today,it’s a powerful tool to shift your mindset. Count your blessings, appreciate the little things, and recognize that your life is unique and valuable.
Living authenticity, embracing imperfections in ourselves and our partners, and realizing that behind the smoke and mirrors lies the true, unfiltered magic of life.
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A Guide to Cultivate Self-Love
Self-love is your superpower! Increasing your self-loves is one of the most powerful things you can do to become magnetic to attract people and experiences you want into your life.
Our culture has conditioned us to think we’re not good enough, not loveable as we are. This has helped feed the capitalism monster, but has devastated our sense of self-love. In a world that teaches us to criticize ourselves, it’s easy to overlook the importance of appreciating and nurturing the person within. We are sharing practical and mindful approaches to foster self-love to improve.
This month we’re doing a deep dive into self love, the last blog was all about the benefits of self love if you haven’t read that article yet read it here!!
Self-love isn’t just a feel-good concept; it’s a powerful force that positively impacts every aspect of your life. When you truly love and appreciate yourself, you unlock more happiness, confidence, and resilience. The benefits are seen through your relationships, work, and overall well-being. It’s not about being perfect, but about embracing your uniqueness and developing a positive relationship with yourself.
Easy to Use Tips to Build Your Self-Love
Mindful Self Gratitude Practices
Start a gratitude journal to reflect on and appreciate the positive aspects of yourself. Everyday for at least 30 days, write down 10 things you love about yourself, are proud of about yourself, or reasons why you’re amazing. The trick is to not repeat anything you’re writing down. This causes you to get creative at looking at all your positive qualities and automatically trains your brain to focus on all the ways you’re amazing. Acknowledge your strengths and accomplishments, creating a healthier relationship with yourself. This practice helps shift your focus towards the good parts of you, fostering a sense of contentment and self-love.
Empowering Self-Talk
Replace self-criticism with self-compassion. Name the critic in your head to acknowledge that it’s not you. Every time you start to catch yourself being critical of yourself, pause in that moment and say “Ok, I hear you (name of critic).” After that rub your hands together or wiggle your toes in your shoes to ground you and bring you back to your body. Then consciously refocus your energy and attention on what you want to be thinking and feeling, the best possible outcome of the situation.
Be Your Own Cheerleader
When a little kid is learning a new skill, you praise them a lot for every little step they take towards that skill. Even if they don’t achieve it, you encourage them and support them into trying again. Take this approach with yourself. Giving yourself constant kudos may seem silly at first, but our brains are wired to respond strongly to positive affirmations and positive conditioning. Throughout the day, take the time to give yourself compliments and cheering yourself on will consciously engage in positive internal dialogue. If you practice this enough, the positive dialogue will automatically start replacing the negative dialogue in your head. And it’ll make it easier to do the mindful self gratitude practice above.
Nature Connection and Movement
Spending time in mother nature is one of the most beneficial activities you can do for yourself. When you spend more time outdoors and engage in activities that make your body feel good. Being in nature actually has a deeply grounding effect on our bodies because it actually helps us release a build up of positive ions in our body, especially if we sit, lay down, or walk barefoot in the grass. If you don’t have easy access to the outdoors, don’t sweat! Just moving your body is enough to get positive emotions flowing! Whether it’s a walk in the park or turning on your favorite song for a dance session in your living room, movement and nature contribute to your overall well-being and improve your self-love.
Digital Detox
Unplug from electronic devices for at least an hour daily. Disconnecting from the digital world allows you to reconnect with yourself, fostering a deeper sense of presence and self-awareness. We’re so trained to be addicted to our phones. One day I had to turn mine off for an hour and I swear I picked it up like 10 times – talk about an unconscious habit! We are conditioned to look to social media, short videos, and phone games to make us feel good. They are actually psychologically designed to give us just enough dopamine that we feel good for a moment and come back for more feel good brain chemicals. The problem is this is an empty trap that keeps us scrolling, watching, locked into our screens in a way that doesn’t serve us. In many ways it actually feeds our negative emotions to see other people in pretty locations on instagram, looking like they’re living a perfect life, causing us to feel like we’re lacking. When we cultivate a habit of putting down our phones for a little while each day, we can connect with loved ones IRL and nurture hobbies that leave us feeling fulfilled instead of feeling empty.
In this comprehensive guide to cultivating self-love, we’ve shared practical and mindful approaches to help you go on a transformative journey towards embracing and nurturing the incredible person within you. Remember, the journey to self-love is ongoing, and by committing to these practices, you’re investing in your own growth and happiness. Stay tuned for part 3 on even more tips!
Unlock Your Success with this Secret!
In a world that often focuses on external achievements and validations, the importance of self-love cannot be overstated. Loving yourself is not just a buzzword; it’s an important practice that impacts your mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. In this blog post, we’ll explore why self-love matters and the benefits it brings to your life. Stay tuned for part 2 next week where we’ll educate you about how to love yourself more and share the tools needed to deepen your self-love journey.
How you treat yourself on a day-to-day basis sets the tone for your relationships, self-confidence, and overall well-being. Embracing self-love allows you to show up in the world as the best version of yourself, creating healthier connections, setting boundaries, and creating a positive impact.
The Impact of Self-Love on Success:
Your level of self-love has a direct correlation with your success in life. When you regularly practice self-love, you enhance your mental and emotional health, leading to increased confidence, resilience, and a more positive internal dialogue. These factors not only shape your personal fulfillment but also influence how you interact with others, paving the way for success in various aspects of your life.
Everyone (Unconsciously) Knows Your Level of Self-Love:
Have you ever noticed that you can sometimes tell someone’s mood without even speaking to them. The emotions they’re feeling is creating body language and other non-verbal signals that give us a vibe of that person’s emotions. This is because of our mirror neurons!
Mirror neurons are a part of our brain that automatically picks up the physiological and emotional state of the people we interact with. It’s the reason why we yawn when other people yawn and often end up mirroring people’s body postures back at them in a conversation. These mirror neurons even change psychological responses in our body like heart and breathing rates.
Yes, Even if They’re Not Aware of it, People Can Literally Read Your Mind:
Whatever we are thinking about ourselves on the inside is actually being reflected on the outside and other people are able to pick up on this. When you’re living in a state of self-love, that vibration is felt by others around you and it makes you instantly magnetic and attractive to others. Because the vibration of self-love has the frequency of love, you’ll naturally and effortlessly attract more positive situations in your life.
Unfortunately, the opposite is true as well. When you’re not in a place of self-love, no matter what emotions, words, or messages you’re consciously communicating to others, there is still a background signal communicating that you’re not in a place of self-love.
This unconscious self-sabotage repels people and positive situations away from you and attracts more negative situations into your life. Think about the last time you interacted with someone and you could obviously sense that they were having a bad day. You immediately want to get away from them, right? This is why increasing our self-love is essential for every aspect of our lives!
Benefits of Embracing Self-Love:
- Increased Self-Confidence: Enhance your self-love for a huge boost to believe in yourself and your abilities.
- Less Stress in Life: High levels of self-love make it easier to navigate challenges with resilience.
- Authentic Self-Expression: Embrace self-love to unleash your true voice, allowing for genuine and meaningful self-expression.
- Living in Alignment: Align your actions and choices with your authentic self, leading to a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
- Better Health: Prioritize self-love to nurture your physical and mental well-being, contributing to a healthier lifestyle.
- More Happiness: Cultivate self-love as the cornerstone of your happiness, fostering a positive and joyful outlook on life.
- Deepen Connections: Enhance your capacity for deeper connections, fostering genuine relationships.
- Healthy Boundaries: Empower yourself to set and maintain healthy boundaries, safeguarding your well-being.
- Increased Positive Impact: Radiate positivity into your interactions, creating a harmonious environment around you.
- Increased Success in Your Job or Business: Elevate your self-worth through self-love, paving the way for increased success, wealth, and a greater positive impact in your professional endeavors.
In a world where success is often measured externally, the internal practice of self-love is a powerful tool. Self-love impacts not only your mental, emotional, and physical well-being but also plays a crucial role in the overall trajectory of your life. Recognizing the influence of self-love on success, relationships, and personal fulfillment is the first step toward creating a positive impact in every aspect of your life. Stay tuned for part 2 of this blog, where we’ll talk about the practical ways to infuse more self-love into your daily routine, creating a life of positivity and genuine connection.
Level Up Your Leadership
In the journey towards success, the master key lies in showing up as a leader. Whether it’s at your workplace, or within the walls of your home, leadership plays a pivotal role. Yet, many find themselves falling short due to a lack of proper training in this crucial skill.
I was honored for the opportunity to speak recently at the Arvada Young Professionals Group! I am deeply passionate about showing up as the best leader I can be so speaking on leadership is a subject dear to my heart! It was an absolute pleasure to be able to share all this wisdom with this group! In preparation for this presentation I did some market research on leadership and there were clear themes that were fundamental to good leadership.
Being a Leader Starts with Leading Yourself
Before we can effectively lead others, we must first master the art of leading ourselves. Here are the top three qualities that define good leaders:
High Self-Awareness
To be an effective leader, one must be aware of their own thoughts and emotions. Take time for presence and self-reflection
Leading by Example
A true leader honors their word. Commitment and follow-through on promises are non-negotiable. Your actions should echo your values.
Inspired Vision
It starts with creating an inspired vision to have a clear picture of what you want. Then get into action and inspire others to join your vision too!
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Practice Self Love
Self-love is the practice of treating yourself with kindness and grace, nurturing your growth, being respectful of your thoughts and feelings. Overall, self-love is accepting yourself for who you are!
Self love is so important! How are you showing up for yourself on a day to day basis and practicing self love? Practicing self love helps us increase self-confidence, resilience and authentic joy.
Having strong self love will literally change how you show up in the world. You’ll create better relationships, have more self confidence, you will set boundaries to protect your wellbeing and will become the best version of you.
Our level of self love has a profound impact on how we see and treat ourselves – which has direct correlation to our success in life! Regularly showing yourself love by doing nice things for yourself, having nourishing daily self care routines, giving yourself some grace when needed, and saying nice things to yourself are extremely important for your mental & emotional health! They also impact how you interact with everyone around you!
Here are a few simple ways you can practice self love:
- Practice gratitude daily with a gratitude journal.
- Give yourself compliments and focus on a positive internal monologue.
- Get outdoors more and move your body in ways that feel good.
- Put down your electronics and unplug for an hour every day.
- Spend time daily meditating and reflecting.
- Pamper yourself with activities that bring you joy.
- Drink more water and eat nourishing food.
- Invest in yourself with personal growth or mental expansion exercises/courses.
- Make a list of 100 things that you love about yourself.
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Words are POWERFUL! Use them to maximize your mindset!
Did you know that you can maximize your mindset to improve your health?
Your mindset is created by the words you’re using. These are the words you say to yourself and out loud. Your thoughts are just words in your head, so what you say to yourself internally is just as important if not more than what you say externally!!!
Your words are powerful!
Did you know that you can affect your body’s physiological reactions with your words? This means your words can increase or decrease the health in your life. I learned this first hand 14 years ago. I injured my ankle but because it was a soft tissue injury that was non-surgical, there was no clear path to healing it. Doctors basically put me in a cast and said “good luck.” Because of that uncertainty in my prognosis, I started to think the worst – “What if it never heals?”
I spent 14 month in a cast, boot, or brace because my fear and negative mindset communicated messages from my brain to my ankle that literally stopped the healing process. The words I was using and thoughts I was thinking about my injury literally stopped the blood flow to that leg. Thankfully through divine intervention, someone helped me identify that this was not a physical issue but a mindset issue. They gave me exercises and I magically started healing again.
Let me repeat that again – I literally stopped and started healing my ankle simply by changing my mindset and the words I was using! That’s crazy, can you even believe that is possible? I was blown away at how powerful my mind was!
So what are your words doing for you?
Are your words empowering you or disempowering you? Increasing your health or decreasing your health?
The best way that I have found to eliminate disempowering words from my vocabulary is to create a “swear jar” where you have to pay in money every time you say that word. It has to be enough money that it evokes an emotional response, so I recommend $1-$5 for each time you say it. The more money you pay to the swear jar each time you say the word, the quicker you’ll remove that word from your vocabulary.
And trust me, these words are costing you much more than whatever money you’re putting in the swear jar. The sneaky thing about the words we’re using is that we’re often not aware of the words we’re using. And unfortunately the words and phrases that slip by unnoticed are often the insidious ones. The words that are judging ourselves or others, picking apart situations and destroying our happiness. In order to effectively employ the swear jar technique, you need to ask the people in your lives to hold you accountable. Tell your family, friends and everyone you communicate with to point out when you are saying those words. Trust me, your kids will LOVE pointing out each time you say these words!
If you want to maximize your mindset, then remove the disempowering words you’re using! Here’s a list of the words to remove to maximize your mindset:
- Words are Powerful
- Can’t → Can
- But → And
- I Will Try → I Will
- Should → Could
- I don’t know → Let me think about/look into it
- I am old → I am blessed to have been around many years
Procrastination & Other Ways We Self Sabotage
Procrastination is a form of creative avoidance, which is one way we avoid working towards our goals. This desire to put off what we are working on is caused by our sabotaging identities, a subconscious part of us. These sabotaging identities are designed to keep you the same as you’ve always been because even if you don’t enjoy feeling those emotions associated with the way you’ve always been, these emotions are familiar and it identifies everything that’s familiar as safe.
Where do sabotaging identities come from?
At one point in your life (under the age of 7), these identities were actually helpful for you. For example, my primary sabotaging identity makes me think I’m not good enough. When I was 3-4 years old, this was beneficial because it kept me striving to be better and pushing myself to learn more and more. This identity is the reason why I could read at a 3rd grade level on my first day of kindergarten – it gave me a high level of motivation to be a better person. Over time I have grown more and more but that identity has stayed the same. Fast forward 32 years and this identity which used to be beneficial is now holding me back because when I am working on things, it has become the voice of my inner critic telling me that I’m not good enough or I’m not smart enough.
This is the same for all six of the sabotaging identities – what used to help us is now holding us back. When you know what your particular sabotaging identity is, you can start to work with it so that it’s no longer running you! Besides identifying which sabotaging identity is holding you back, it’s important to recognize the ways you’re holding yourself back. When you recognize these patterns, you can use them as a cue to understand when your sabotaging identity has taken over!
In addition to procrastination, other common ways we self sabotage include:
- Chronic worrying: People tend to get stuck in a cycle of chronic worrying because it gives a sense of control over a situation. When something is out of your control, worrying can give us the illusion that we can do something about a certain situation. This in the end causes more harm than good however, causing more stress and anxiety than is needed.
- People pleasing: Sometimes we make decisions based on how it will make others feel. This can be self sabotaging as when we are in this mindset we aren’t making decisions or doing things based on what we want and we are holding ourselves back based on how we think this will make others react to us.
- Confusion: This is the sneakiest way we sabotage ourselves! By going into confusion and telling ourselves “I don’t know how to …” we are preventing ourselves from having to make a tough decision. Sure there are times that we don’t actually know, but it’s often that we use this as an excuse so we don’t have to move forward on our goals.
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- Tap into your “big why:” Think about the deeper meaning for why you want something and return to that often. Your why is very important because it’s the motivation for everything that you do in life! When you recognize yourself in a self sabotage pattern take a step back and read your why statement to get tapped back into your power and take action.
- Connect with your higher self: Your higher self already has all of the answers. We can tune into our higher self by getting quiet and going within. Tap into that through meditation, walking in nature, journaling, or practicing gratitude. Any way that you get connected with your inner knowing is a great way to receive the necessary information from your higher self!
- Balance Your Masculine and Feminine Sides: Everyone has a dominant masculine or feminine nature. Masculine nature is active, external and often action taking. The feminine nature is more passive, thoughtful, creative and feeds internal energy. It’s important that we balance both of these energies so that one does not overpower the other. It’s very common in our culture to get stuck in masculine action taking mode and we get the best results when both of these sides are balanced. So ask yourself what feminine actions are you taking and how can you use them to support you in reducing your self sabotage!
Mirror Work Works!
Mirror Work Works – How to Improve Your Self Love!
Self love is an essential key to living a happy life. One of the most effective tools for increasing your self love is mirror work. Mirror work is a very simple concept – it involves looking at yourself in the mirror and saying/thinking nice things about yourself. Although it’s a simple concept, it’s not always an easy practice. I highly recommend doing these exercises if you want to improve your self love and acceptance.
How Does It Work?
When you look in the mirror, your emotions about yourself are reflected back at you. Whatever you are saying to yourself in your head is visible in the emotions on your face. If what you are saying to yourself is not very nice, this can be a challenging exercise at first. Thankfully it clearly shows you what thoughts you will need to shift if you want to improve your self love and live a joy filled life. And that’s the beauty of mirror work, it helps you become much more aware of those background thoughts you are saying to yourself, which is the first step at increasing your self love and the first step at shifting your mindset! The great news is that once you get into the habit of doing this regularly, it starts to become fun and you’ll learn to really enjoy this exercise!
Mirror Work Exercises
I recommend trying these exercises everyday for 21-30 days to dramatically improve your self love!
- Start off by smiling: this is one of the easiest places to start with mirror work. Stand in the mirror and close your eyes. Think about something (anything) that makes you really happy. Feel those happy feelings in your body and allow yourself to have a big smile from these feelings of happiness. Now open your eyes and keep smiling at yourself in the mirror for 1 minute. Notice how beautiful you are when you are smiling.
- Compliment and love yourself: this is the next step in building onto your mirror practice and can be added on after doing the smiling exercise. It’s very simple – look in the mirror and give yourself compliments out loud or in your head. They can be any kind of compliment (about your physical appearance, your personality, etc). Just spend 2-3 minutes complimenting yourself and saying “I love you” to yourself. Look at yourself as you would your best friend and simply be kind to yourself with your thoughts and your words. If you notice yourself having a not so nice thought about some part of you, be sure to find ways to compliment that part of yourself. The trick to this one is to look yourself in the eyes and say I love you to yourself so much that you actually believe it and the reflection of you says “I love you” back.
- Gratitude for your whole self: this is the most advanced type of mirror work. I strongly recommend working through the first two exercises before even attempting this last one. Again, the idea is simple – look at yourself in the mirror and give yourself compliments and be grateful to yourself for how amazing you are for 5 whole minutes. The catch? This exercise is to be done while you are standing in front of the mirror naked. Looking at every part of yourself in the mirror means that you can’t hide your negative thoughts about your body from yourself, they’ll be reflected back at you. Each time you notice yourself saying something negative, find a way to compliment that part of yourself. Although this may be the most difficult exercise, it’s definitely the most powerful and transformative.
Show Yourself Grace
Mirror work can be very tough in the beginning but the rewards make this exercise worth doing. Remember that like anything else, this is a process and it’ll get much easier with time. Even practiced people like myself can have negative reactions to looking at yourself in the mirror. Heck, I’m a mindset coach and I still catch myself occasionally saying negative things about myself when I look in the mirror. But I know firsthand how much this works! Fifteen years ago, I noticed that I never looked in the mirror. I would go days, weeks, even months without so much as glancing in the mirror and when I did I would grimace and say terrible things to myself in my head. After doing mirror work, not only do I now look at myself in the mirror, the vast majority of the time my first response is to say something nice to myself in my head. This exercise has helped me learn to love myself inside and out!
Benefits Of Mirror Work
The way you do one thing is the way you do everything. So if you’re saying negative things about yourself, you’re probably saying negative things about others and the world around you. So the benefit of loving yourself more will show up in every area of your life! Practicing self love daily will help reduce your overall stress and anxiety, boost your confidence and self esteem, increase your happiness and satisfaction with life, allow you to start living your full potential and so much more.
How else could your life improve when you increase your self love? Try it yourself today and find out!
How to set SMARTER goals!
Setting goals literally rewires your brain to make essential parts work more effectively! Our brains have neuroplasticity, which means that goal-setting literally changes the structure of your brain so it’s optimized to achieve that goal. Our brain doesn’t know the difference between what we want and what we have. This means setting a goal is a great way to trick your brain into thinking that your goal is already part of your life, which makes it much easier to start working towards your goal! As an added bonus, setting goals boosts your brain’s serotonin and dopamine levels making you feel better and more confident! Here are some tips on how to set SMARTER goals!
How to set a SMARTER goal! When setting your goal make sure they follow these parameters:
- SPECIFIC – Good goals are clear, concise and have a specific end result/target.
- MEASURABLE– What does success look like for this goal? How is it measured so you know when you have achieved it?
- ACHIEVABLE – The goal or task must be challenging but still possible. Gently pushing the limits encourages improvement and growth.
- RELEVANT – Does the goal fit with your overall life goals and core values?
- TIME-BOUND – When will you achieve this goal?
- EXCITING – What excites you about this goal? The benefits should be worthwhile to maintain commitment and motivation to the end.
- REVIEWABLE – Reviewing progress is an important aspect of a goal. A good goal is set up in a way that it can be reviewable periodically to see what is working or not working. If you find your progress isn’t where you want it to be, revisit the goals and revise them as needed.
When setting goals there are a few things that you can do to help you in addition to setting smarter goals.
- Find an accountability buddy. Having someone that you can discuss your goals with and help hold accountable will create momentum.
- Journal on your goals as well, ask yourself what are you willing to try to achieve your goals, are you able to step outside of your comfort zone to make a goal happen?
- Checking in with yourself and others will help you stay on track and get you closer to accomplishing your goals.
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Choose Happiness Today!
Happiness is amazing for your health! It improves your immune system, decreases your blood pressure and reduces stress in your body! However sometimes it’s tricky to feel happy when you’re stressed or unhappy in life. Thankfully it’s still possible to choose happiness no matter what the situation!
Here are some tips on how you can shift your mindset to choose happiness!
- Choosing happiness is NOT about ignoring negative emotions! It is very important to feel your emotions even if they’re negative! When you resist or ignore your negative feelings, they persist in your life and tend to get even louder. If you want to release negative emotions, it’s important to honor your feelings by acknowledging their presence and accepting the fact that they’re there. When you acknowledge and accept your negative feelings, you allow them to be released.
- Visualization is a great tool to shift into a feeling of happiness! Taking a moment to visualize things going well in whatever situation you’re in gives you a mental and emotional boost. The great thing about visualizing yourself as being happy is that the brain doesn’t know the difference between the visualization and reality. So not only are you normalizing the feelings of happiness in your body, you’re actually convincing it to shift into an emotional state of happiness to match the visualization!
- Gratitude is an excellent way to embrace your happiness. No matter what is going on around you, it’s possible to pause and find gratitude for things around you. If you’re in a negative situation this can be tricky but it’s still totally possible. By choosing to focus on gratitude, your choosing to see the silver lining in the situation and you’re consciously choosing to be happy in that moment!
- Positive affirmations & positive internal monolog are a great way to shift into happiness! Choosing to have an upbeat attitude and say positive things to yourself is encouraging and supporting. When you practice this you can have a great day and feel good no matter how much things seem to be falling apart around you. And similarly, positive affirmations are also programming your brain with positive things. Whatever we repeat to ourselves is programmed into the subconscious and it’s the job of the subconscious to make it true and find where it’s already present in our lives!
